The first argument which comes to my mind are breaking down with privileges. Being free of seeing, or making any different with whom we share.
So far we're used to prefer to share, with family, friends or people with similar cultural background.
Minorities and Edgeriders are often simply left out.
Sharing unconditionally doesn't know the difference between a stranger and a well known person. Unconditional sharing is inclusive.
Whether they wish it or not, members of dominant social groups possess
unfair advantages over members of less privileged groups. Privilege
depends on the existence of hierarchy: an imbalance of power extending
throughout society, providing some demographics with more resources,
leverage, and comfort than others. The workings of hierarchy are
justified by supremacist thinking, such as the idea that some groups are
harder working, better equipped, or more deserving than others; they
also are obscured by the obliviousness that comes of identifying with
the cultural I. Privilege can be practically invisible to those who have
it; it is often painfully obvious to those who do not.
Social dynamics are never so simple that people can be divided
easily into oppressors and oppressed, however. Any individual may
partake of privilege in one situation, and suffer its absence in
another. It makes more sense to focus on the ways some benefit and
others suffer in regard to specific criteria, with an eye to following
how these shift in different contexts. A group of people who all
identify as women of color may be composed of different religions,
genders, class backgrounds, native tongues, ethnicities, sexual
orientations, and conditions of mental health and experience subtle
power imbalances within their ranks accordingly. Similarly, it is a
mistake to think of different forms of oppression as existing in a
hierarchy of grievousness, or to argue that some manifestations of
oppression are mere subsets of others; to do so trivializes the unique
experiences of human beings, which cannot be measured or reduced to
Many privileged people think of themselves as self-sufficient,
assuming that they live in a meritocracy and that all that they have in
life is the result of their own hard work or that of their families. In
doing so, they overlook the institutional and cultural advantages from
which they benefit. To take stock of what advantages you might have in
terms of racial privileges, consider how many of these statements
reflect your experience:
• I can, if I wish, arrange to be in the company of people of my race most of the time.
• I can turn on the television or open to the front page of the paper and see people of my race widely represented.
• I can be sure that my children will be given curricular materials
in school that testify to the existence of their race and to the history
and accomplishments of others of their racial background.
• I can go into a music shop and expect to find music made by others
of my race, into a supermarket and find the staple foods that fit with
my cultural traditions, into a hairdresser’s shop and find someone who
can work with my hair.
• Whether I use checks, credit cards, or cash, I can count on my
skin color not to work against the appearance of financial reliability.
• I can swear, dress in second-hand clothes, or not answer letters
without having people attribute these choices to the bad morals,
poverty, or illiteracy of my race.
• I can do well in a challenging situation without being called a credit to my race.
• I am never asked to speak for all the people of my racial group.
• I can criticize the US government and talk about how much I fear
its policies and behavior without being immediately seen as a cultural
• I can be pretty sure that if I ask to talk to the “person in charge” I will be facing a person of my race.
• If my day, week, or year is going badly, I need not wonder of each
negative episode or situation whether it has racial overtones.
For more perspective, go over this list again, replacing “race”
with ethnicity, sex, gender, age, shape, and so on. Of course, no two
white people experience white privilege in exactly the same way, just as
not every man feels safer walking alone at night than every woman. Some
people have made life decisions that result in them not experiencing
many of the daily privileges enjoyed by others of their demographic: a
taxi driver may be as likely to refuse to pick up a white man with
facial tattoos as a black man without them. But privilege, on a deeper
level, is not easily shaken off. The white man, in an extreme, can have
his tattoos removed, while the black man knows that the challenges he
faces in a racist society are inescapable. A woman from a middle class
family may choose a life of poverty and even homelessness, but the fact
that she is connected to people who might be able to help her in an
emergency makes her experience very different from that of a homeless
person of a poor background. Similarly, the advantages that come from
having been raised in a privileged setting remain throughout one’s life,
whatever else happens. Those of privileged backgrounds who choose a
path of exile upon which they experience alienation and persecution can
draw on these experiences to imagine what life is like for those who
never had their advantages in the first place.
Rather than denying the privileges one possesses or imagining one
could somehow wash one’s hands of them and thus of complicity in
oppression, it makes more sense to use one’s privileges, whatever they
may be, to undermine privilege in general. One way to do so is to find
ways to put these at the disposal of others who can benefit from them.
If nothing else, one should always attempt to stay aware of the unfair
advantages one has, and to take these into account in interactions with
others; but simply learning to recognize and decry one’s privileges
while still cashing in on them does not constitute an effective struggle